thought of the day:::...
my best friend miko told me that a man has to love the woman more in order for the relationship to work. i didn't know if i can buy that. but she gave me countless examples.

interesting. this is tough. cuz i don't know if that equation will work. ideally, i am an egalitarian. it is a delicate balance of what works out for me. some say i am picky. others say i am too hard. i just say i am going with flow. cuz really, i DON'T know what i want right now. (well, i do. but i don't know if it is available to me right now.) i do know that i catch feelings fast and i lose them fast. i easily love but i take a long time to fall in love. i am a romantic at heart but a brutal realist. it's combustible and not stable yet i want stability.

so...
THOUGHT OF THE DAY: does a guy have to like the girl more than the girl like the guy in order for the relationship to work? think before answering please.

PorkJELLO: nope
PorkJELLO: it won't work

RJesena: Yes, absolutely...
RJesena: A guy can find it weird if a girl like him to much... it takes away from his hunting and gathering instincts
RJesena: there is something embeded in men that makes them desire (hunt) women that they cannot have...

ARCHON236: i'm confused, i've never thought of an imbalance like that

KUKI DOE: i dunno... its weird because if a guy liked me more then i get scared and i run away
Alfie says: i know huh? same here
Alfie says: but then if i like a dude more, he gets scared and runs away
Alfie says: fucken aye
Alfie says: i lose both times
KUKI DOE: yeah... its a lose lose situation

CAPdiggy: no.
CAPdiggy: but someone has to like someone more.

kittie1527: i've been in both situations (where one liked one more than the other) and neither work
kittie1527: it works when it's beyond quantifying love
kittie1527: sometimes it starts out as the pursuer and the pursued, that's courtship. but as it develops into a relationship, it has to be two people working toward a holistic partnership
kittie1527: i think the mistake that happens too many times is dating becomes a relationship too fast
kittie1527: chillin' with someone and dating for a bit isn't as prevalent as it should be

Randy Q Says: my mom always told me for a relationship to work out she said that you should stay with the one that luvs you not the one that you luv..
Randy Q Says: sad but true
Randy Q Says: ive seen it in action
Randy Q Says: eventually you will grow to luv the other person

caineinyamouf: Initially.........yes. For it to work in the beginning the guy has to like the girl more becasue in most situations a girl isn't going ot approach a guy to start something. YOu know.....its the traditional
caineinyamouf: boy sees girl, boy likes girl, boy chases girl, boy catches girl theory.
caineinyamouf: but once they are together its important for both of them to get get to the smae level even if its not at the same times.

vanessawithamg: IF A MAN IS MORE IN LOVE THAN THE WOMAN...
vanessawithamg: THEN THE MAN WILL WORK HARDER
vanessawithamg: TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP WORK, U SEE..
vanessawithamg: WOMEN GROW INTO LOVE..
vanessawithamg: ATLEAST A GOOD WOMAN DOES
vanessawithamg: AND IT USUALLY TAKES A MAN WHO CAN RECOGNIZE A GOOD WOMAN
vanessawithamg: TO CHERISH HER PROPERLY
vanessawithamg: AND FOR THE WOMAN TO FEEL STRONG AND RIGHT TO ALLOW HER LOVE TO GROW

asceticalchemy: NO...i think there has to be a level of mutual attraction... just the possibility - the promise of a relationship... but i think most folks jump the gun... but a relationship only becomes a relationship through time... and battles fought and won together... it may just need the "i like myself when we ineract... or you make me think... or i love your ideas... or just simple... you're kinda cute..."
asceticalchemy: but what do i know... just take it slow... appreciate the scenic route... there's more to be said discovered when the lips aren't interlocked or sucking on something...