friends?

i am in an ill mood today. maybe it is the hormones. maybe it is the planets not aligned. maybe it is cuz i od'ed on some coffee.i could not sleep last night and i could not shake the bad energy this morning.

and then he called. i cringe. i used to not cringe but i noticed that everytime he calls me or everytime he ims me or everytime i see his name on my caller id box, i cringe. maybe its cuz it feels like he only calls if he needs something. and maybe cuz i finally admit that it hurts and gets me angry cuz i realize that he only contacts me cuz he needs something. no one likes to feel used.

the better half of me tries to remember that when you offer your assistance or help out, you do it with out seeking anything in return. that is just spiritual law. but the human part of me is the one yelling right now and thinks he suck and wishes his mama taught him better.

oh well, i will silence the human part and try to convince her that she doesn't see the bigger picture and that really, we are racking up credits with karma every time we help any one need, friend or foe. karma owes us big time. haha

what do you think?

thought of the day: how do you deal with a friend that only contacts you when he/she needs something?

lazylarry26: cut 'em off

vanessawithamg: GIVE THEM BAD ADVICE.. LIKE WHERE TO FIND THE BEST RASHES AND REALLY TELL THEM YOU'RE SENDING THEM ON A MISSION FOR FLOWERS OR SOME SHIT
vanessawithamg: CONVINCE THEM WHILE SOUNDING COMPLETELY SINCERE THAT SOMETHING IS HORRIBLY WRONG WITH THEM
vanessawithamg: THEN IF ALL ELSE FAILS
vanessawithamg: LAUGH AT THEIR PROBLEMS AND SLAM DANCE ON THEIR TOES
vanessawithamg: POP THEM IN THE NECK AND TELL THEM TO CONTACT YOU WHEN THEY'VE GOT BETTER SHIT TO TALK ABOUT
vanessawithamg: ....
vanessawithamg: WILL THAT GET ME INTO THE QUOTABLES?

Kris P Pata: always ask for something back
Kris P Pata: basically, barter
Kris P Pata: if they ain't too thick, they'll get the picture
Kris P Pata: what you're telling them is: You wanna just talk when u need something? Ok, the store is open."

sponsays: thats not a friend

RJesena: I don't know
RJesena: this is tough

caineinyamouf: hmmmmm......still be a friend
caineinyamouf: but.....let him/her know if it bothers you.
caineinyamouf: and then start charging for advice..yeah.
caineinyamouf: pimp out your advice guuuurl

KillerCapoeira: It depends on what that friend needs. It may not be hurtful to indulge some selfish friends because of the love and pleasure that they, none the less, bring you. Others need to be cut off like Michael's nose.

KillerCapoeira: Besides, any time a friends gets ahold of you, they need you. You are the air to their soul. And by that same token, sometimes you want to choke the living crap out of them!