friends?

i am in an ill mood today. maybe it is the hormones. maybe it is the planets not aligned. maybe it is cuz i od'ed on some coffee.i could not sleep last night and i could not shake the bad energy this morning.

and then he called. i cringe. i used to not cringe but i noticed that everytime he calls me or everytime he ims me or everytime i see his name on my caller id box, i cringe. maybe its cuz it feels like he only calls if he needs something. and maybe cuz i finally admit that it hurts and gets me angry cuz i realize that he only contacts me cuz he needs something. no one likes to feel used.

the better half of me tries to remember that when you offer your assistance or help out, you do it with out seeking anything in return. that is just spiritual law. but the human part of me is the one yelling right now and thinks he suck and wishes his mama taught him better.

oh well, i will silence the human part and try to convince her that she doesn't see the bigger picture and that really, we are racking up credits with karma every time we help any one need, friend or foe. karma owes us big time. haha

what do you think?

thought of the day: how do you deal with a friend that only contacts you when he/she needs something?

lazylarry26: cut 'em off

vanessawithamg: GIVE THEM BAD ADVICE.. LIKE WHERE TO FIND THE BEST RASHES AND REALLY TELL THEM YOU'RE SENDING THEM ON A MISSION FOR FLOWERS OR SOME SHIT
vanessawithamg: CONVINCE THEM WHILE SOUNDING COMPLETELY SINCERE THAT SOMETHING IS HORRIBLY WRONG WITH THEM
vanessawithamg: THEN IF ALL ELSE FAILS
vanessawithamg: LAUGH AT THEIR PROBLEMS AND SLAM DANCE ON THEIR TOES
vanessawithamg: POP THEM IN THE NECK AND TELL THEM TO CONTACT YOU WHEN THEY'VE GOT BETTER SHIT TO TALK ABOUT
vanessawithamg: ....
vanessawithamg: WILL THAT GET ME INTO THE QUOTABLES?

Kris P Pata: always ask for something back
Kris P Pata: basically, barter
Kris P Pata: if they ain't too thick, they'll get the picture
Kris P Pata: what you're telling them is: You wanna just talk when u need something? Ok, the store is open."

sponsays: thats not a friend

RJesena: I don't know
RJesena: this is tough

caineinyamouf: hmmmmm......still be a friend
caineinyamouf: but.....let him/her know if it bothers you.
caineinyamouf: and then start charging for advice..yeah.
caineinyamouf: pimp out your advice guuuurl

KillerCapoeira: It depends on what that friend needs. It may not be hurtful to indulge some selfish friends because of the love and pleasure that they, none the less, bring you. Others need to be cut off like Michael's nose.

KillerCapoeira: Besides, any time a friends gets ahold of you, they need you. You are the air to their soul. And by that same token, sometimes you want to choke the living crap out of them!

Thought of the day #2: lets say someone gave you a boat. and this boat was hella cute but it had lots of holes it. ofr the first few years yousail around in your culte little boat and really dont care of its faults and you over look them. but eventually the boat takes in water. not much but some. but you still really like this boat. its sinking and you want to fix it but you are not sure in the long run with al the costs of the repair. what do you do?

((( key to answering this is to substitute the word boat , for "guy" or "girl".)))

kittie1527: you need to ask the question,
kittie1527: WHY do you like the boat so much?
Alfie says: maybe you like to WALK instead?
kittie1527: hahahah right!!!
kittie1527: or maybe you really need a CAR
kittie1527: holes in a boat are a pretty big fault. those kind of faults will make you DROWN
kittie1527: i'd let it go and chill on the coast and see what other "boats" pass by...so hand me the pina colada

sponsays: if i was going to be in a boat with holes in it, I would have made sure to stay within swimming distance of the shore
sponsays: *true answer if you think about it*
sponsays: can't get in too deep with a leaky boat

tikodotorg: and i was at the point where bubble gum was doing the trick.. and then moved up to duck tape (u know the heavy industrial kind)... but the duck tape is getting really expensive... and starting to be an everyday task.. and people are starting to notice it as well.. so the pretty little boat is turning into this horrible looking mess... i am thinking its gonna take more effort and work to repair the use of duck tape in exchange for real wood if it's even ablel to be salvaged at this point.. but i hang on.. remembering what i fealt when i got that pretty little boat.. wishing for a miracle.. living in denial suks ass!

ARCHON236: nip the problem in the bud, and start looking for a bigger and better "boat" cuz a man like me can't have anything that's "hella cute" for too long.

my answer
i tend to like to upgrade in life. i would rather save up for a speed boat. i like to make sure i get to where i am going quickly and safely. so instead of taking chances for with something that can be dangerous, i can work on the beach, saving up money, researching what kind of speed boat i want (cuz it is an investment) and purchasing one once i am ready. but i like to swim from time to to time so i will dip in once in awhile...

thought of the day: two guys and one girl goes out. they are all homies. one of the guys unknowingly pisses off another car with three guys, who are belligerent and drunk. the three guys approaches the car with the two guys and the girl. the two guys gets out of the car. do you expect the girl to fight, seeing that the girl is down for her boys, or do you expect her to chill, cuz she shouldn't fight in the first place?

and the answers are

ARCHON236: she better box!

vanessawithamg: fuck it she should throw down
vanessawithamg: she should fuckem up with bottles or whatever weapons are close
vanessawithamg: anything that will give her advantage
vanessawithamg: like a shotput
vanessawithamg: did you get in a fight?

luvJONES13: how big is she?
luvJONES13: haha j/k
luvJONES13: see, i am down for my boys... but i can't do shit physically
luvJONES13: it would be like they were getting tickled n shit
luvJONES13: yeah i'd have to throw something sharp to ahve any sort of effect

RJesena: if the girl can fight she shouldn't get involved in the fight at first, but if her boys start to get in trouble she should be the one to throw the towel or get some help
RJesena: if the girls' boys are kicking ass she should just watch, and if she wants to get involved a little bit that should be OK too...
RJesena: as a boy (who has been involved in bar fights and other stupid things), I don't expect my girls to fight...
RJesena: I do expect them to take care of my bruises and scars, and maybe stroke my ego afterwards...
RJesena: did you get in a little trouble with your boys

lazylarry26: fight fight fight!

Randy Q Says: GIrl Fight.. If i was the chick id get my boys back even thought id prolly get my ass whoooped
Randy Q Says: thats just me

kittie1527: so the question is, shoudl the girl be expected to fight?
kittie1527: also, i woman has much more at stake when fighting another man. there is a higher chance that she can get assaulted sexually
kittie1527: whatever she chooses should be respected by the guys. like for me, i don't know how to fight. but i can key cars, slash tires, bash windows, take shit...hehe...


well, wendy's fight club is in the hizzzzouse. we didn't get into a fight. but damn, we were getting ready to. didnt want to. i just got my nose pierced!